Done With Drinking is a consortium of therapy and coaching professionals with specialized experience in the management of drinking and its unwanted effects. We come from a school of thought that departs radically from the traditional ways of thinking about drinking; that is, that any alcohol consumption is bad and should be stopped. We understand that moderate drinkers can come to drink more than they think they should, yet do not want to disrupt their lives by going to an inpatient rehab or joining a group that advocates powerlessness. Done With Drinking further understands that many people who wish to stop drinking, or just want to re-learn to moderate after experiencing a drastic increase in their consumption for whatever reason, do not think of themselves as powerless at all.
Our method is not based in any religious faith, but we do have faith that we can help you regain mastery over your life. If you are drinking too much and you know it, you are probably fully aware that the underlying reason is that you've got feelings you just can’t control right now. With professional guidance and your own sense of purpose, you can get that control back. Believe it.
Done With Drinking uses a series of unique self-assessments through which you learn all about the connections between your thoughts and feelings and the way that you drink. These connections generate from core beliefs about yourself that were built before you had any conscious control over your mind, and you are probably not even aware of them. But you act on these "pre-sets" nevertheless. For example, one of those core beliefs is an unconscious feeling of shame that guides not only how you feel about yourself deep down, but that dysregulates your behavior in a way that makes it seem “out of control”. Whereas most people think feelings of shame prevent them from doing the wrong thing, we think the opposite. Most drinking cessation programs operate on the idea that if you feel bad about the things you are doing, that you'll stop. The Done With Drinking framework does not use shame or any other emotional cudgel to “help” you stop drinking. On the contrary. We believe that the majority of people who drink more than they “should” have had enough of feeling bad about themselves, and are through with the vicious cycle of self-punishment they've kept going because of it.
We know you need to feel like you are making immediate progress, and that you want to get through this efficiently. The in-depth weekly self-assessments are constructed so that as you learn about your core self, you rapidly begin to behave more consciously. We help you to “mine” this material for real self-discovery. In session, we use a Socratic kind of learning process by which we give structure to the values, intentions, and goals that will get you back on a good foot right away. Plus, you are provided customized strategies for employing what you learn in easy, practical ways.
